10 Reasons Why Smart Guys Are Not Successful With Women

Dude, chicks dig it when you're all up on how great you are. You need to be like: "Check this baby. After I scored a 2400 on the new SAT, totally demolished this guy arguing that everything reduces to inductance, disarmed a nuclear bomb with ten seconds to spare, all the while racing F1, I bought a Benz with my immense amount of cash. Do you want to bake me a freaking cake then go swimming in my cash-filled pool? Thought so."

They've done studies. That line (lines?) works 60% of the time, every time.

I'm assuming that comment has nearly 20 votes because everyone agrees I should be more arrogant.

OK.

That was a given, Noah.

How arrogant can you truly be if you require the approval of twenty other people before you become more arrogant?

I'll have you know that I am in a constant state of Ego-Increase. I was born that way.

Take 'em or leave 'em, here's Seven Steps to dating happiness if you're a smart guy:

Step 1. Find a smart girl
Step 2. Let her know how smart you are through asking her questions and let her know she's beautiful
Step 3. Ask her to read one of her favorite book passages with you; don't offer yours unless she asks
Step 4. Don't lose focus on your own hobbies/interests; include her where you're comfortable
Step 5. Read She Comes First Step 6. Don't be afraid to use your vocabulary to get right to the dirty talk
Step 7. Rinse. Repeat.

(for best results, see how long you can keep this up with the same girl)

First point, the SAT doesn't make you smart; In fact, I'd say it's a terrible test of one's intellect. I scored a 1220 (on the new one! just kidding) and still got into a fine school and generally consider myself a decently intelligent guy sans SAT blather.

But, and I don't smell any internet sarcasm from you so I'll be serious, you really can't have that mindset about dating. Thankfully, it's easy to fix (but sounds wholly stupid). You need to go talk to 30 random girls in 30 days. Seriously. I had all kinds of woman-related anxiety until I randomly started chatting around school and whammo-presto, I'm a regular... I dunno, regular dude who can go on as many dates as he sees fit with nearly whomever he chooses? :) I love college.

Anyways hope that helps.

First point, the SAT doesn't make you smart;

I was just using the measured that was being used above.

You need to go talk to 30 random girls in 30 days. Seriously.

Your response is a little simplistic. 1.) I have no problem talking to new girls. I do it all the time. I don't have confidence issues, I have "long-term committment issues" coupled with (as the article implies) an ability to end a relationship before it begins because I can see exactly where it will fail.

2.) Ok, so lets assume your solution "solves" the problem at hand - and I go on 30 dates in 30 days. This doesn't solve any of the real problem because I'll still sooner or later, be my own worse enemy, figure out why the relationship won't work out and then leave it.

I think our two issues are much different in reality. Glad to hear things are working out for you though (and that wasn't sarcastic either).

I was just using the measured that was being used above.

And yes I recognize the irony in me messing up a sentence grammatically, while defending how "smart" I am. I never said I was good at English ;-) Actually I am an idiot in English.

You need to go talk to 30 random girls in 30 days.

Actually, if you read the writings of those in the 'pickup community' (yes, there really is such a thing; get a copy of The Game if you don't believe me...it's actually quite an entertaining read), one of the secrets is to do literally hundreds of approaches, which both inures you to rejection while at the same time upping your odds dramatically.

Back in my day, we just called it The Shotgun Approach.

There are anglers and there are drift-netters. You can go to a glacial stream and cast a handwrought fly into to cold fresh waters or you can get on the trawler and bring up everything that swims.

What if you think it's easier to just go to Mcdonald's and get a filet-o-fish?

What are you doing to my metaphor?

Cheapening it horribly, dragging it into a morass of Dickensian lower-middle class bleakness from which it can only recover through the winning of Powerball or liberal applications of Schlitz.

It's what I do.

Don't forget Skull and Bones, man....they're always involved somewhere along the line.

one of the secrets is to do literally hundreds of approaches, which both inures you to rejection while at the same time upping your odds dramatically.

I wonder all the time why guys don't just approach women more often. I seriously feel like my generation especially has completely lost touch with the art of the introduction...

I believe there was a time (like, say pre-1965) when the rituals were all codified, and everyone understood what was what.

Then -- in their infinite wisdom -- a bunch of self-indulgent boomers decided they were so freakin' special that the rules should not apply to them, and they threw conventions out the window. Ever since, there has been chaos, as no one really knows what they should be doing, when, with regard to relations between the sexes.

I have considered The Oddfellows, but something always seemed off about them.

What do you mean?

Of course that pretty/attractive women are the first thing that men look at. Later on is when the real tests come. A dumb will bore the relationship unless men are control freaks.

Phaedrus, the 'Vine automatically replaced the word in your post with random symbols, and I can't understand what you were saying.

Was it "a really big tongue?"

That's what she said!

I'm initially partial to a pretty face, but if he is dumb for even a second I'm immediately disinterested. I can only be with guys that can carry on an intellectual conversation...

Although, if they have any of the qualities outlined in this story that can be a deal-breaker unless they are carried in moderation. Also, these qualities by no means are only inherent in smart guys...there are plenty of dumb guys that possess them as well!

The "one" you are currently with is actively sabotaging your other efforts. They are very possessive creatures.

I need time to figure that statement out...anything to get me in trouble written there?

Don't worry. With all the typing you'll be doing, you're hand will be even stronger and more conditioned.

Um...yeah.

Thanks to those women that were not fond of my hubby for being a very serious student, I am married to one. I need to admire the person that I share my life.

Smart guys are the only ones I like. But the really smart ones can't usually get it together enough to start a relationship.

Actually, I prefer smart-asses. You have to be smart to be a smart-ass.

Actually, I prefer smart-asses. You have to be smart to be a smart-ass.

:)