
I'm going to refer to it as "The Genius Failure Paradox". "The Genius Failure Paradox" is the tendency for unusually intelligent men to have very low levels of success with women and dating.
But the really smart ones can't usually get it together enough to start a relationship.
Maybe not for a one night stand, but when is seriously in love, patience paves the way.
If smart guys want to get stuck with dumb girls, go this route, it'll be fun for @!$%#s and giggles. However smart people (guys and girls) should probably try to date other smart people, or at least people they know and have stuff to talk about. I would never be happy with a dumb guy, no matter how "hot" he was. Most smart guys I know could go along with a dumb but hot girl for a while, but seek out conversation and friendships with co-workers or others out of sheer intellectual starvation.
Smart guys are hot to smart girls. Maybe what is actually needed is a little style sense, and a little less worry about how many notches are in your belt.
I dated a guy once who was so sweet and just after my divorce, he was exactly what I needed. But after a while, I realized he was dumb as a rock! I felt bad for him, but jeez! I need intellectual conversation.
If a guy can't hold up his end of the conversation, I start looking elsewhere. I have no time for stupidity.
Most smart guys I know could go along with a dumb but hot girl for a while, but seek out conversation and friendships with co-workers or others out of sheer intellectual starvation.
Some have argued that prostitution flourished in Victorian London precisely because "proper" women were so sheltered, prudish, and fixated on home life that there was a huge market for prostitutes to simply provide flirtatious, intelligent conversation.
This is certainly true of 16th century Venice and the Geisha in Japan.
You need at least one, but preferably two or three of the following to attract a woman:
Confidence. Looks. Money (Power can substitute for money). It's that simple.
Mind you, none of these things alone are going to hold a woman's attention. A compatible level of intelligence, shared interests, and social skills will hold her attention. But for the attraction part of it, you need one or two or three of the above.
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